Have you ever been rejected by eHarmony? According to a recent article you are not alone, about 20 percent of people who sign up for eHarmony are ultimately rejected. (see Story) Have you ever wondered why? Here are a seven confirmed reasons why:
- The main reason people are rejected by eHarmony are if they are still married or separated (but not divorced). Earlier this year if you entered one of this options as your Marital Status you where told this right away by eHarmony that they don't allow married people to use the service, but now I see they let you continue on with entering your profile.
- This is related to point 1, if you answer that you have been married for more than 2 times (this may now be 4).
- If you entered" I am a Man seeking a Man" or a "Woman seeking a Woman" would also get you the boot. This happened before eHarmony opened their same sex dating site called Compatible Partners. Now, you will get redirected to Compatible Partners.
- Your answers don't jive. This actually happened to me. Randomly selecting your profile answers may speed up answering the questionnaire but it will most likely get you a rejection notice. A simple test for this one is to enter you are a Man seeking a Woman on the eHarmony homepage and then on the first section and question of the questionnaire confirming your gender as female.
- Age. According to eHarmony's Terms and Conditions of Service " You must be at least 13 years old to use the Site (or the age of majority in your jurisdiction, if it is older), and at least 18 years old to register for the Services.".
- That you have been convicted of a felony. While eHarmony does not conduct criminal background screenings, they do reserve the right to conduct such checks by using available public records. This one won't get you rejected right away but if someone complains about you, and they do a little digging and find a criminal record, you may get served a notice of rejection.
- As reported by a number of other blog sites (I never did find the source), eHarmony will reject you if you score low on a number of different traits or dimensions. These can include your emotional status, character, conflict resolution and several others.
Here are a few rumored reasons of why eHarmony may have rejected you:
- If your religion is not Christianity. While this might have been true at one point (I don't think it ever was), this is still a common assumption. This rumour probably came about due to marketing materials which advertised Christian values.
- If you were ever divorced, eHarmony will rejected you. This is untrue, you can be divorced more than once.
The worst thing about being rejected in most cases is, that eHarmony lets you fill out the entire profile before telling you the bad news. For some reasons I understand that this may happen, but on information that they know about from early on in the questionnaire (like marital status), eHarmony should let people know not to waste their time.
While most people complain about being rejected by eHarmony (no one wants to be rejected), I don't see it as all bad (with the exception of point number 3, which they are in trouble with anyways (see Story)), and if you are rejected, you shouldn't either. Would you want to pay for a dating service that believes it can't supply you with quality matches? I know I wouldn't
Do you think I am missing some reasons as to why eHarmony rejected you? Please comment below...