Contributed by: Jet on Monday, August 20 2012 @ 08:13 am
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When tips for writing your online dating profile are discussed, knowing what you want is usually first and foremost. It’s important to really know who you are - your flaws, your strengths, what attracts you - so that you can better figure out what you require to be happy, and thus more easily find someone who would make a great match. Because, after all, you’re looking to become one half of a pair, and how can you find your literal “other half” if you’re not sure what you’re working with in the first place?
And yet.
Sometimes we’re absolutely sure of what we want, what we need, what we’re looking for - and then we meet someone that turns all that on its head. Simple chemistry and matters of the heart completely eclipse our logic.
Note: I’m not talking about someone who is “bad” for you, or someone who directly contradicts what you know you need. No, I’m talking about someone who possesses qualities you didn’t even know you needed, or didn’t think actually existed, until you met someone with them. Someone who doesn’t rewrite your rules, but suddenly fleshes them out better and differently than you could have imagined.
Maybe you’re completely self-aware and you don’t need such redefinition of your rules. Still, the possibility of meeting someone outside your box, someone who expands your worldview and your love view, still exists. So when you’re perusing the profiles of others, when you’re scanning through emails you’ve received, keep one small part of your heart open to considering someone different. One date is, on the whole, not that great a sacrifice to have a new experience, and even if you don’t find love, you might learn something new about yourself.
After all, if all we’ve ever been served is oatmeal, how will we ever know if we’d love cake, unless we try some?