Contributed by: Erika on Sunday, November 08 2009 @ 08:36 am
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Ever had someone contact you multiple times on an online dating website? That is, multiple times when you hadn’t even responded the first time…
It happens to most of us – some people just don’t know how to take no for an answer. There can be many reasons why someone decides to contact another member again if they don’t initially receive a response. Often times, it is with good intentions, unsure that their email or message was delivered on the first try. Others, they simply can’t believe that you’re not interested. Regardless, here are some tips for contacting people on online dating sites and now to show interest without being a stalker.
Twice Tops
If you reach out to someone once, especially by a message, and they do not reply, you can contact them one more without looking like you are nagging. If the person did not respond to your first message, it’s perfectly OK to send something along that says, “Hi – I dropped you a line last week without a response. I just wanted to say hello once more and see if you’re interested. If you wouldn’t mind sending me a quick note back, that would be great. While I’d love to connect with you, I don’t want to be annoying or bother you. I look forward to hearing from you!”
Stop Winking
If you sincerely want a response from someone, consider sending a message instead of the “flirt” or “winks” that many sites offer. I completely ignored winks throughout my online dating tenure, knowing that the type of person I would be interested in would be bold enough to send me a message. If for some reason you send a wink or flirt and get no reply, try sending an email. That’s your second contact attempt, so if you don’t receive a response, move on and find someone else who is interested!
Don’t Retaliate
If someone takes the time to send you a “no thanks” or simply doesn’t respond, appreciate both. You want to be in a relationship with someone who is active and interested in you. We’re not all a fit for one another, no matter how much we might like someone’s profile. Instead of blasting off a “well, fine” message that’s less-than-noble, pack your bags and move on to the next awesome potential match on your list. There is someone incredible waiting for you out there – don’t let anyone in online dating bring you down.