How honest are you with your dates?
Contributed by: kellyseal on Sunday, May 02 2010 @ 09:15 am
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In celebration of National Honesty Day (yes, it really exists), I'd like to discuss honesty when it comes to dating.
If you are an online dater, chances are you've come across dates who aren't so honest in their profiles. Some post old pictures, some lie about their age, relationship status, or even what they do for a living. In order to change some of the negative perceptions of online dating, I suggest everyone take a look at your profile to see where you might be less than honest. Here are some common problem areas to consider:
1. Your age
Just because you aren't 25 anymore doesn't mean that you aren't an appealing candidate for online daters. At one point, I fudged my age so I could get more matches, but this didn't help in getting quality matches. Besides, starting a relationship with a lie is never a good foundation for building trust, which I found out the hard way.
2. Your weight/ body type
The one complaint I hear over and over from guys is that women lie about their weight. Ladies, instead of trying to be a body type you're not, accentuate the positive (are you curvy? Mention this!). You will attract the kind of guys who will appreciate what you really look like.
3. Your height
Guys, this is the complaint I hear most from the ladies. Don't assume every girl wants a tall man. You make things worse when you meet each other for the first time and she sees that you're a 3 inches shorter than you claimed. Again, you will attract the women who will appreciate your appearance as it is.
4. Posting old photos
Ok, we all have run into this. How many dates have you been on where the person looks nothing like the photo he or she posted? If you don't have any good recent photos, it's time to ask a friend to take some for your profile. Even if you don't think you've changed much, your date might.
It's important to be as honest as possible on your online profile. If you are trying to get "better" matches and hoping you will prove yourself on the date, think again. People are turned off by dishonesty. Do yourself and your dates a favor, because in the end, they will respect you for who you are. Not who you are trying to be.