Contributed by: kellyseal on Friday, May 24 2013 @ 07:14 am
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The scenario:
You're single and on your way to a party, hoping to meet someone interesting and/or attractive to talk to. You notice when you first walk in that there aren't many people you recognize. You wished your friend hadn't bailed on you at the last minute, but now you're here and need to make the best of it. What do you do?
a. Stand by the bar and wait for someone to approach you/ talk to you
b. Go find someone you know (like the host) to help introduce you to new people
c. Go up to total strangers and introduce yourself
d. After a few glasses of wine, hit on the hottest guy in the room in the hopes he's single
e. Grab a quick drink and head out early. You made your appearance.
We're all different, and some of us are more introverted than others when it comes to social situations. It's far easier to stand in the corner by the bar and watch other people, or wait for them to approach you. After all, they seem to know each other and are involved in their own conversations. You don't feel comforable interrupting.
Unfortunately, being the shy type won't help you meet new people or make it easy for you to get a date or two. It's hard to put yourself out there. But if you prefer to sit back and wait, or leave the party early because you're too shy to introduce yourself or make small talk, you're sabotaging your own chances of meeting someone great. Who knows - you could meet the love of your life by putting yourself out there and going solo.
First, it's important to understand that going solo to a party puts you in the driver's seat. When you're by yourself, it's easier for people to approach you. Think about it: if you were huddled with friends - in your comfort zone - how many attractive single men (or women) would approach you to talk? Same thing if you leave too early - you could miss an opportunity to meet someone great who showed up later in the evening.
But if you take going solo one step further and introduce yourself around - you have increased your chances of meeting someone with date potential that much more. And if you have a hard time talking to strangers, enlist the help of someone you know who is also there - like a work colleague, a client, or an acquaintance.
My suggestion is: keep your options open and be courageous. You don't get anywhere without taking chances. Risk is required for the most rewarding things in life - including finding love.