Contributed by: kellyseal on Tuesday, December 13 2011 @ 09:39 am
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Dating can be intimidating, especially if you've just come out of a long-term relationship. It's normal to worry about everything from what you'll wear to what you'll say or even how attractive others will find you. It can make you doubt yourself and turn into somewhat of a narcissist. Who doesn't want to put his best foot forward when meeting someone for the first time?
There are a few simple steps to improving your confidence when it comes to dating. We can't all be Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt, but we can do our best to boost our attractiveness meters and feel like a million bucks - and believe me, your dates will notice.
Dress for success. Nothing improves dating confidence more than when you know you look good. Wear the dress that flatters you most. Add heels and a nice top to your jeans. Wear a jacket over your black t-shirt. Dressing up a bit for a date shows the person you're meeting that you take care of yourself and make an effort. It speaks volumes for making a good first impression. So even if you're meeting for coffee on a Sunday afternoon, put a little effort in - resist showing up in flip flops and torn jeans.
Mind your manners. You don't have to open doors for your date (although this is a simple, elegant move), but do remember the small things - like putting your cell phone away and engaging in conversation. If you're distracted and looking around at other women in the restaurant, or talking about yourself without asking her questions, these are big turn-offs.
Respect everyone around you. Treat everyone you encounter on your date with respect: the valet, the waiter, the bartender, the hostess. Remember to tip well. These small steps will go far in endearing you to your date - especially when she doesn't know you - so pay attention to how you treat the people around you.
Exercise. No, you don't have to be a model or body builder to be able to successfully date, but you do have to show an interest in keeping fit. Start an exercise regime you can stick to - this will do wonders for your self-confidence, not to mention give you an extra lift from all those endorphins. Your date will notice.
Adjust your attitude. Most daters want to go out with someone who makes them feel good - someone who can laugh or has a generally optimistic nature. If you complain a lot about work, or past dates, or your exes when you get nervous and you're trying to connect with your date, please stop! Instead, ask questions or talk about your passions - make the date a positive experience rather than a depressing one.
Take risks. Nothing is more important in dating than going outside of your comfort zone and taking a few risks. Talk to the cute woman in line for coffee, or the guy drinking his beer alone at the bar. There's no harm in approaching, and it boosts your overall confidence in the long run, even if you're met with a few rejections. You never know when or how you may meet someone special.
Good luck and get out there!