Contributed by: EFoley on Tuesday, May 11 2010 @ 09:07 am
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I may not be psychic, but I can read a dating profile and tell a client a lot about their ex (or exes!). The funniest part about it is the absolute shock when my clients admit that yes, that's exactly what their ex was like... how did I KNOW? (It never gets old.) It must be the same look that my friend the tarot reader gets when she nails a card reading for someone.
Realize it or not, most of you are leaving a trail of breadcrumbs in your profile that describes exactly what your most recent ex did to you. Or didn't do for you.
In women's profiles, I often see:
"Faithful" = my ex was a cheater
"Honest" = my ex was a liar
"Family Values" = my ex didn't want to get married and have babies
In men's profiles, I often see:
"Communicative" = my ex never told me how she was feeling
"Truthful" = my ex was a liar (or more often, left out important details)
"Stable" = my ex was crazy
It's not your fault. It's human nature for us to describe something we want in terms that give away the last model we owned.
Think about cars, for example. I own a 2002 Mitsubishi Mirage. I bought it 100% because the dealership had a $0 down, $0 interest & $0 payments for a year special. And it was red. And a stick. It was the first new car I had ever owned.
But now that I've driven Xanadu for 8 years, I've come to realize there are some things I wouldn't mind in my next car. If I were writing a personal ad for my perfect car match, I'd say that I want one with a quiet cabin, cruise control, and four doors.
What are the problems I have with my current car? You guessed it! It's noisy as heck on the highway, long trips are a pain in the leg without cruise control, and having passengers in the back is difficult with only two doors.
Take a good gander at your current profile. Obviously, there are going to be some factoids about your ex that will be given away, but taking the time to smooth away the more obvious ones will improve the quality of your profile and the results it gets for you!