Contributed by: Jet on Saturday, June 15 2013 @ 09:50 am
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Let’s talk about “Michelle.” Honestly, Michelle isn’t having a great day. She didn’t sleep well last night, so she overslept this morning. The jolt of adrenaline she received upon waking up way past her alarm got her out the door in time, but it’s left her feeling like she’s playing catch-up the rest of the day. She’s frazzled, tired, and her skin is breaking out. To put it mildly, she’s not at her best. Also, today is Friday.
If Michelle stuck to the most traditional dating customs, Friday would be the day she’d be expected to “hit the town” and see if she clicks with anyone. Sometimes she sets out on her own, but usually she goes out with a group of friends - friends who will cajole and apply friendly peer pressure if Michelle tries to bow out. On this night, she wishes she could bow out, but she’d agreed to be the designated driver this week. She decides to attempt to power through.
Midway through the night she’s regretting her decision. She’s still tired, and crashing from the caffeine she’s been drinking all day in preparation. She’s got a headache. A movie star could have been attempting to get Michelle’s attention and she wouldn’t have noticed - she’s just counting the minutes until she can get home to her bed.
Now let’s consider another night for Michelle - if she’d been using an online dating site as well. She no longer feels the pressure to “make the most of every weekend,” as if she were going to miss her One True Chance at Love if she skipped one night. At the end of the work day, she tells her friends she’ll see them later and heads home. She changes into comfortable clothes, watches a bit of TV, and falls asleep early.
Later that weekend, while she’s browsing the internet, she decides to check in with her online dating site. She checks to see if she’s gotten a response from someone she’s been emailing since last week. Nothing yet, so she idly browses other profiles while she’s there. A few look promising - she bookmarks them. She’s the sort of girl who prefers to give all her attention to one person at a time, but if things with the current emailer fizzle out, she’ll revisit those profiles then.
It’s a Saturday afternoon, but Michelle doesn’t have to be at a club to meet someone. The typical “bar crawl” schedule didn’t work for her this week - but with online dating, it didn’t have to. Sometimes finding someone compatible can feel incredibly complicated and stressful - so why should the window of opportunity be small, when you’re not at your best? Since Michelle tries to only visit her profile when she’s well-rested and positive, every day is a Friday.