Contributed by: kellyseal on Sunday, April 13 2014 @ 09:25 am
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There’s an art to attracting a woman’s attention – especially when it’s through your online dating profile. The biggest mistake I see guys make is assuming that women will automatically respond to their emails or overtures – when the truth is, most women are bombarded with messages.
You have to cut through the clutter to make a good impression. It’s up to you to make your profile stand out so that she will want to respond. Maybe it doesn’t seem fair that guys have to work a bit harder in that respect, but that’s the reality. And isn’t it worth it to meet a great woman?
Following are some tips to give your profile a competitive edge:
Be yourself – not your resume. As cliché as this sounds, there really is meaning behind it. No woman wants to hear all of your work accomplishments or accolades, she wants to know if she can connect with you. Instead of crafting a resume, try expressing what you’re passionate about, what you want to learn, or your sense of humor.
Watch the grammar! Proofing is the most important thing you can do for your profile, at least according to the latest Match.com study. The vast majority of women want to know that you can put a sentence together (not text-speak). Considering how many people leave incomplete profiles with poor grammar, this will give you an advantage.
Stay away from selfies. Have you been working out? Do you want to show off your six-pack? Please don’t. Even if you look great, your matches will be turned off because you’re showing yourself to every single woman on the site. Instead of taking that shirtless selfie, try taking a picture playing a guitar instead. Studies have shown that if you include shots of yourself doing something active – especially playing a guitar or musical instrument – you’ll get more responses.
Be sincere, not generic. It might seem easier to write things you think women will want to hear, but it will work against you. “I like long walks on the beach” will cause her to scroll right past you. Instead of going for cliché try injecting your personality into the mix. What do you really like? Where would you take her on your ideal date? What’s your favorite memory from childhood? These details into who you are will capture her attention.
Complete the profile. So many men leave profiles blank or hide photos, which will cause a woman to think you’re hiding something (maybe a girlfriend). Don’t write an essay or refuse to post photos, but DO use complete sentences and try not to leave anything blank. If it looks like you spent about five minutes filling out your profile, she’ll notice. A little more effort goes a long way.