Contributed by: kellyseal on Wednesday, May 22 2013 @ 06:56 am
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Conveying who you are and what you want in an online dating profile can be a difficult process. You don't want to be too wordy or women won't read it. And you don't want to reveal too little or else there's nothing that can spark a good conversation. So where's a good middle ground? How do you begin?
The best thing you can do to have a successful online dating experience is to avoid a few clichés that really turn off women. This will help get you more responses than anything else, even if you aren't exactly Casanova.
Avoid the following turn-offs for women and you'll be off to a great start:
A photo with your car (or boat, or beach house). You get the picture. If you have to post pictures of yourself with your favorite and expensive toys or possessions, it's a way of bragging about yourself, and it doesn't come across well. Women don't care about your expensive car. It won't make them eager to respond to your email, trust me. They care about whether or not they feel attracted to you.
"If you want to know more, just email me." There's nothing worse than looking at a profile with only a few short sentences about what you're like. Say something that draws a woman in, otherwise there's nothing she has to strike up a conversation. And saying that she has to reach out to you just to get your basic profile information? This is enough to make her skip you and go to the next profile.
Photos with friends, or that cover you up. If you're posting photos of you in baseball caps and sunglasses, she's going to have a hard time figuring out what you look like. Ditto for group pictures - how does she know which one is you? Instead of being sly and trying to hide things you don't want her to see (like your big ears or your balding head), be upfront. Show off your good features, like a nice smile. It's better to be honest than have to explain you weren't the guy she thought she'd be meeting.
Shirtless anything. Sigh. If there's one thing that men keep doing on dating websites hoping that women will swoon, it's posting those shirtless photos. We get it - you work out, and you're proud of those pecs, or abs, or biceps. But seriously, save it for when you meet us in person. Otherwise it's just more bragging (to a lot of other women), which is so unattractive.
Sexy clichés. While we love getting emails that say "hey sexy" in the subject line, we know you've sent them out to another 300 women, so don't bother. Instead of trying to woo us with sexy clichés, try picking out something specific from our profiles to talk about, like a recent trip to Baja or a sailing expedition. A little creativity goes a long way.