Contributed by: Anonymous on Tuesday, March 21 2006 @ 06:05 am
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You're a man in your 50s and she's barely 25. You wonder if it's even worth trying to establish a relationship and she tells you she doesn't mind your age. Or perhaps she even says she's in love with you? If I were you I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. But keep in mind that stranger things happen every day, so she just might be telling you the truth about her feelings. Don't lose your head, no matter how eloquent she is at expressing her feelings. Instead, try to figure out why she's into you. Here's what a friend of mine, a girl in her early 20s, tells about why she prefers older men to their younger counterparts:
1. An older man, and I mean mid 40s early 50s age group, is not the same as he was 20 years before. He usually won't act all goofy around you, won't make a fool of himself in public, and won't hurt you for nothing just because he had a rough day at work. He's more stable emotionally and is prepared to discuss with you the issues the two of you might have, instead of running around screaming and shouting hysterically to make his point. He doesn't tend to mistake a simple misunderstanding for a relationship disaster.
2. An older man is more inclined to feel responsible for the girl he is with. By this age the man is normally a fully developed individual. He has made a career of some sort and most probably has subordinates at work. So he doesn't shun away in fear when someone has to take the lead in a stressful situation. This appeals to girls like me coz I don't always want to be dealing with life on my own. Sometimes I just want a man to tell me what to do or simply let him take care of it all himself.
3. After 40 the man has already lived past his sexual peak and it's again good news for his girl. I'm not joking!! He's not like 'I'm ready baby, lets get down to business' anymore. He's not inclined to pressure you. He's more gentle and leading rather than pushing and insisting. He doesn't ignite so fast, which leaves a lot of time to engage in foreplay. And what's more important - he knows what to do to make a girl feel right.
4. I'm a late child of my parents and I'm really close with my father. Perhaps that's why I'm looking for a man with me to be a lot older than I. I like to be treated like a little girl and I like the man to take the lead - it's just such a turn-on really!!
Of course there are more reasons why some girls find older men attractive. If the age difference is no more than 10 years, it can be disregarded altogether, provided that the two of you 'click' socially and emotionally. If the age difference is much more than 10 years, you should think of it twice and ask the girl a few questions. For example:
- Do you usually fall in love with men of my age, or it's the first time you're interested in a man significantly older than yourself?
- How would your friends react if they saw you with a man who's old enough to be your father?
- Let alone the fact that I'm a foreigner, but I'm also much older than you - What if your parents were really against our relationship?
If her replies sound untrue, perhaps she's merely after your pocket. But if her answers are grounded in reality, she just might be one of those 'Daddy's girls', like the friend of mine I mentioned above. So never lose hope, but keep your eyes wide open at all times.