Contributed by: Anonymous on Monday, August 22 2005 @ 07:25 am
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Hi I'm Sapphireblue78 ;) that's my nic. I'm a 27 year old single gal like everyone looking for love! When it comes to kisses, flirts, smiles ect. they come freely. Some from nice guys, shy guys, all backgrounds and ages. Some hits and some err.... misses. So why after about 2 years on a dating site am I still single and looking? Let me pour a glass of wine and spill all...
Ok so at first I got so much attention I didn't know what to do. Id recently broken up with my boyfriend and was feeling a little fragile (been there?). Chat boosted my ego enormously. It took about 8 months of celibacy and going out of my mind to finally meet up with bachelor no 1. A moody dark hot fellow who against better judgment I met up with and ended up in a hot night of passion ;0 oops! He soon made it clear that he wasn't actually interested in a relationship so it was back on the wagon. I moved to the Inner city where I figured there had to be a better opportunity I met bachelor no 2 and just had no spark, at all even after 3 months of dating (don't string it out if you don't feel it) the "but he's a nice guy and has his *censored* together" Girls DONT SETTLE if you don't feel it cut your losses and move on. So on went more meetings where some didn't look anything like the picture, some I just didn't hit it off at all or vice versa.
The most current date which I thought I had finally struck gold! relationship material, gorgeous, seemed to have *censored* together didn't..... very disappointing...very.
My personal take on net dating is to send a few emails or chat on MSN to see if you "feel it" the conversation flows and you have a lot in common. I also make it very clear that If I we meet up its just as friends and not to have unrealistic expectations. There is no need to put yourself under that kind of pressure if its meant to be it will. I also say that if you or I don't feel it just say and its all good no hard feelings and good luck with it all.
I have found by being honest and upfront I haven't had any experiences where a bloke has felt I led him on. I find that people on these sites weather its subconscious or not have an expectation of some type.
Touch wood by taking this approach I have not had a "bad date". I don't understand how love got so complicated all at once do you?
I am trying to get out more and meet people but have you noticed how they don't interact? You can be in a crowded room and feel completely alone coz people don't talk to each other. I look someone in the eye and they look away or at the floor like they cant stand it.
If there is one thing I have learned its that the whole dating and love game is a mind F...k you need to know 2 things for certain- who you are and what you want and never let go- people will influence and throw you off but if you aren't true to those 2 things you wont find happiness which is the most important thing.
The other thing you need is a good friend, someone who you can talk too and rely on no matter what and someone you don't ditch if you do get a man! When a storm comes you need someone to show you that the sun is just behind the clouds in your mind.
I have faith in me, I have faith in you and we have faith in being true to ourselves and know that one day we will meet the person who is our match. I wish you all the very best in your search......thank you for reading.