You must have a screw loose! 
 

#1: The majority of people on POF are not stuck up.  They are the total opposite, losers with  no education/jobs/ and a lot of times not even a car.

#2:  The site is and always has been free.

 No not stuck up, but people with a bad attitude, addicted to online dating, and shallow minded--you know the type of girls who think someone with no car is a loser.

Only a small percentage of the population in any city core owns a car.  Over 50% of New Yorkers and 75% of Manhattanites don't own a car.

I guess 75% of Manhattan and half of New York is full of losers?

It's true. There is a higher concentration of snobs on POF than anyplace else in the universe. You know what I think it is? They get emails all day from guys saying "you're hot" , "you're sexy"... Eventually, something snaps in their heads and they think they're supermodels. I call them POF supermodels.

there are decent guys on there who are honest, and ARE single. too bad we've all been stigmatized thanks to all the idiots and morons. It seems even so much as a polite hello has been cliched and over used by the morons before they become rude, so good guys have no chance. that's why i quit

Agree, I am a 58 yr old professional lady who moved to a rural area, and live in a mid size -- very conservative - clicky town.  So my options are very limited, to find that special, true man

who is serious about having a relationship with a mature woman.   Even if you find mature men on any site. they want women 10-20 yres younger!. What are we, women to do?? I may try the Christian sites, even though I do not consider myself religious, but open minded and Spiritual.    Pleae advise!!  

 I  agree... but I must say that POF is not a good place for quality dates. Years ago when I was on it, I was shocked at the no-class statements and behaviour  from its members. And I am a man. Unfortunately, I end it up on Match.com and found several good prospects. But it took browsing many thousands of profiles and quite a few e-mails to weed out the fluff. I noticed a marked difference on members attitude and quality as soon as fees are involved.  I am not saying that ALL members are better just because they pay, but the percentages of serious daters are significant enough to make it worthwhile. And the education, profession embracing percentage is quite a bit higher on pay-per-use sites. Not sure why.  And yes, I ended up being married to my match. Regretfully, I did not pay attention to the small signals I got in the initial barrage of e-mails that followed my initial contact with her. Had I investigated further and ask for a full past history(she was married before and had a roving "winking" eye) I probably would have avoided the present re-occurring past issues.
So "buyer beware" is valid in this arena as well. There are no short-cuts for doing the home work required to find ALL you can about your prospects. Go slow and stay WIDE awake.

Good luck.

NeverrrGiveUp.

 For bad stories and terrible stories read http://www.pofusers.com absolutely hilarious forum created by disgruntled POF users.

I'm a divorced woman in my 40s, currently on POF for about 2 months.  I have found this site to be what you want to make of it:  if you come to it with the right attitude you will easily find quite a number of decent, honest men.  If you have "baggage" i.e., a bad attitude or unresolved issues from your past, it will quickly become apparent to anyone who has contact with you.  There are plenty of good fish in POF who are sincere but it is up to you to be honest and sincere as well.  Also, a little kindness goes a long way on POF.  People really appreciate a response to their emails, even if it is only to say, "Thank you, I'm not interested at this time, I wish you the best in your search."  Short, simple, polite.  But more than anything else, you have to be honest with yourself.  If you are, you will probably grow from this process.  If you aren't, you will leave it bitter and disillusioned.  If you're like me, new to the process, then yes, you will probably start out with unrealistic expectations but that is an opportunity to look deeper at yourself.  If you can accept reality then you will go at this process a little differently, i.e., with more realistic expectations and a much better chance of finding a good match.  The site is very user friendly with a minimal amount of ads that are paying for my free ride so it is okay with me that the ads are there.  If you stick with it you will find out what kind of profile works.  I find that if a profile is too short it's hard to make a decision about whether to contact the person.  If the profile is really long, I'm a little worried they'll talk my ear off.   Have the courage to be very honest and direct about what you are looking for but state it in a positive way.  I really didn't know what I was looking for, at first.  Like I said, it's a process.  You'll learn a lot about yourself if you want to.  Also, it really is a whole lot like the "real" world:  there are people of all kinds anywhere you go.  Just take your time, get to know the person until you feel comfortable before going to the next step.  If you only want to communicate online within POF for a while, that's fine and if the other person doesn't, well, that wasn't the right person.  Take your time, use all sensible precautions, but lighten up, and have fun.  Above all, keep trying!  You'll figure it out.  And for all the people who will inevitably say that I am affiliated with POF in any way, shape or form, other than as a fellow fish, well, so be it!  I'm not.  My experience of POF is probably the same experience I would have on any site.  Attitude is the key!  And yes, I do get discouraged sometimes.  I'm human!  Anyway, best wishes to all!

Hi, I totally agree.  I appreciate your post - it's realistic & postive.  Regards, from female currently on POF

Yep, that's a reasonable approach and exactly what you would expect from a reasonable dating site.  Afterall, you're meeting people, shouldn't be a big deal. Unfortunately, only a small percentage of people on POF use that approach, so the site dynamic is something other than that. Pretty hard to go against the flow.

POF isn't a particularly good dating site for men because the male:female ratio isn't managed that well.

The high male:female ratio doesn't actually work in womens favor, though it may appear to at first. What typically happens is, guys that are indeed open to relations and bring something to the table can esily fo better elsewhere in terms of meeting women they interested in ... mostly do to the lopsided ratio and how it is managed. I would expect most women therefore ending choosing from large pool of typially less desirable men ... in a number of areas.

There is a very high a quick turnover of the more desirable men on the site, again, because they do better elsewhere. I would think the best approach for women using the site, open to relationships, is to target the men they are interested in and pursue ... before those men just leave the site.

POF was better when music, playlists and videos could be downloaded: the members' personalities were able to shine through the murkiness of botched descriptions written from text messages and fuzzy photos uploaded from cell phones in steamy bathrooms. I understand IM has been removed as well. It seems the only cool features of the site were intentionally removed from the creator himself after he collected cash for membership upgrades (a gold star on their page like the kind a 5 year-old-year gets on his/her drawings at school).

I agree with the other posters that though it is a global site, generally the men are seeking hot dates while the women are looking for long-term relationships, and both only within 75 miles of their residences. Hmm. Anyone ever hear that that Earth is actually round after all. and that no one will "fall off" if they venture too far from home?

Since POF is absolutely free,and easy to sign up then cancel, it is absolutely abused. Plenty Of Fish will be always be Plenty Of Poor Fish until the site loses it extreme diposability. 

I think that too many people feel that they are better than they really are. men bragging that they are highly educated, earn large sums of money and are perfect visualy, does not mean they are a great catch, they may be conceited and show of these attributes. The women trying to score a free meal or some guy to support them, often giving the illusion they are interested until a bigger sucker comes along. maybe giving the man the idea that sex is a possibility if he plays his cards right.

my experiance is not very positive, but that may be my own fault not the women's. I am extremely honest and ask questions based on image and description that often offend women with seeminly unrealistic profiles. I was not looking to date nor looking for sex, just some fun and a little etalk. I state my intentions upfront but still get accused of playing games. I am a well above average looking man and the women that would be interested in me in the real world would not give me the time of day on PoF, feeling that they could do better.

I just think that it is sad that in this day and age we even have dating sites,nothing overcomes that magic when you see a stranger, with all the mysteries about them, for the first time. we should not blame the site for the failings of the users, if you are not honest with yourself then you will not be honest to others.

Wow, that is a lot of anger you've got there buddy.  Let's try some simple logic here.  Angry Man cannot secure real life quality female companionship due to clear internal issues leads to same situation with online females resulting in angry tirade towards dating sites in general.  You see what the commonality is in all your problems?  You.  Get some help.

To: Anonymous on Sunday, April 04 2010 @ 05:52 AM Eastern Daylight Time - Like I said in my post - it's retards like you that just make sites like POF the losers that they really are. That goes double for retards like yourself who have nothing better to do than slam people posting the truth here about retarded & lame sites like POF (Plenty of Flakes)! Now - just go back to your baby crib and stop using your mommy's cmptr to post crap here, or else I'll slap the crap out of you! How's that for anger little boy? Stupid people like you should just be seen (God help us all there too) and not heard since you have nothing worthwhile to say! Just STFU!

Dude, mellow out...Angry men do not do well inthe dating world. Could be the reason you're single.

Because POF is driven by ad revenue, it's missing a decent toolset for dating purposes. That burns up alot of your time. It also adds to everyones frustration as well.

POF has all the problems you will see on any dating site, but certainly a higher precentage.

Because there is no real motivation for women on the site to "make a decision", you will have to be a better than average carch for any women you email to get a response.

Ultimately POF is just a crappy social network maskerading as a dating site.

If you treat it as a social network rather than a dating site, you'll likely do better.

To do relatively well on POF a guy would need to be at least a 7/10 (overall). Less than that it's a fair amount of work.

In any case POF will burn up fair amoount of time. You're likely much better off spending that 1-3 hours per week, just going outside.

Like all dating sites and social networking sites PlentyOfFish is designed to make money. Free sites that display ads want the users on the site as long as possible so they can see as many ads as possible. Case in point, the owner of PlentyofFish did a test, he removed the instant messenger from his site and he found that this meant users where required to use the mail system much more which got him more page views. He didn't care that his users like to use the instant messenger, he just decided to completely remove it so he could get more money from the ads he sells.

POF is just another Internet con game. POF doesn't have any useful tools to aid dating/matches etc. It's just a low end social network.

It's just an ad display network. It sets the bait (women) then lowers the probability of success by keeping the system as ineffective/inefficient as possible while trying to retain a high user base. maximizing ad revenue to the extreme.

You would have to be a fool to fall for such nonsense.

Why would a women want to meet guys from there? The only reason would be if the guy is a significantly better than average catch for that particular woman. Of course that means guys would do better pretty much anywhere else and with less effort.

This is common sense. The probability of guys meeting women from there at the level as they would elsewhere far too low to be worth spending any time using the site.

The whole concept is nonsense. Does there exist any guys out there, that are worth knowing, that would need to line up against that much competition to meet women? No, of course not. Why do they do it? Take a guess.

Maybe it's just the way Georgia and Kentucky are but from my experience, race has been the biggest issue with this site. I receive threating messages from white girls because I'm black...I've never had that trouble before. I deleted my account after 1 month.

Yep, POF is clearly misrepresenting itself as a dating site. It's pathetic that a dating site is using computers to simulate a newspaper want ads section or a 1960s filing cabinet. Who in their right mind are desparate enough to spent their time searching thru that mess. It's hilarious that the site is popular at all. I guess their are a lot of guys there looking for sex and a bunch of women who are happy enough to get their ego stroked and date these guys. It's just a bunch of desparate people chasing desparate people. I don't why women even have a requirements list on their profiles; I assum eit means they are willing for have sex with mwn fiting these requirements. Certainly there are no men using POF for relationships ... you have to be an idiot to do that. Imagine lining up to take your turn for anyone particular woman, for a relationship .... that's never going to happen.

Good site because it's free...but lots of obsessive men who will write you 15---20 times even if you don't open a single one of their e-mails. LOTS of stuck up people who think they are God's gift if they hold a job or are even remotley good looking.

The way POF is set up to maximum ad revenue:

the odds of fetting a womens response is at best 25%. And that's for a fairly stellar guy.

The typically odds are around 10%

Unliess you can get women, you want, coming to you, it's a waste of time. As a result you can be sure that a lot of uys will significantly embellish their profile. [that means lie]

In any case your odds at somewhere between 10-25%.

As a guy, if you believe that's worth your time, while at the same time generating high revenue for the site owner, then you're a little nuts.

Here's what you should do instead. Everytime you meet/date some women in real life, simply take $100 and send it to the POF guy. That way you will still have the pleasure of giving away your time/money to someone you don't know for doing absolutly nothing .... plus you're meeting women. The best of both worlds.

A better solution, maybe just give the $100 to charity, or maybe just half.

Hey, wait a minute, this is a brilliant, unique idea ... maybe even rolvotionary. Don't hive anybody, any money, for the provilege of speaking to someone ... there was a time when you could that ... maybe we can do it again.

BUT, if you're going to insist on paying for it ... at least use a service that fulfills their end of the contract.

I hereby decree, that love/dating is now free for everyone. We no longer need to pay others for that privilege.

Rise up people, REVOLT.

POF is a terrible site.

The features and technical capabilities are good, but the people are a nightmare. Stuck up, too high expectations, many are there to massage their egos about how much interest they get, also lots of married people.

Sure use it, but just set your expectations low, very very low if you are single and genuinely looking.

Not a good Site... My opinion, stay away. Ya its free, so you get what you pay for. Nothing = Nothing

Pof is near useless as a dating site. It's set up that way intentional to maximize ad revenue, well beyond the point of usability.

Pof is more of a scam then anything else.

Myself, I don't understand why guys would be interested in meeting women that are dating a bunch of different guys at the same time anyway. That's not exactly what guys look foir in a woman.

Well, I understand why guys use the site under those circumstances ... doesn't take a genius to figure that out.

What I don't understand is why women, use the site, if they are actually looking for a relationship. A woman would have to be quite awesome to pull in a decent guy under that scenario.

At best pof should be considered nothing more than a low end social network, mostly for play.

At worst, it's just a hookup site ... and that's what pof effectively equates to.

The right mindset to use for pof, or at least a mindset, not necessarily right is:

You're a guy interested in sleeping with a bunch of different women who themselves are sleeping with a bunch of different guys. If you happen to run into someone you want to keep ... which seems unlikely ... I guess that's not so bad.

Keep in mind, most women are not naive enough to believe pof is anything other than that ... so expect their expectations to be higher than normal, as that makes sense under that scenario. Woman who are primarily just looking for sex, as that seems like the only benefit of using the site, are certainly going to want the best man prop they can get.

To me pof just seems like a free manw_hore service for women. Given that it's free, I'm pretty sure the service not that great ... so you can expect a lot of pi$$ed women there as well.

Good times ... :-)

However if you're a younger guy OK with older women, pof is pretty easy pickings.

You shouldn't interpret the above as a negative comment toward women on the site ... I'm sure they all fine, in their normal life. But while on pof, they have clearly going through some sort of "change".

But it's not such a bad deal afterall. Women get to pick out a few playmates as they please to fit their schedule. AND men, who are at least 7/10 (looks/height/money) get the occasional release without much effort.

I think of it as a public service. Though they should rename the site to FMW ... free manw_hores ... satisfaction not guaranteed .. use at own risk.

You can meet desirable women using the site, if you put in the effort, and play the game irght. But you won't meet women there that haven't become quickly tainted by the many amatuer players that rome the site.

You can also extinguish a candle from 20 feet away by throwing beer caps at it. If will work, eventually, but it's not really a good plan.

There are a high number of desirable women on the site who have children. If you're a guy with kids looking for the same, it's not so bad. I say it's worth a decent effort in that case. I don't have kids, so it's not my thing.

Most woman on the site are just looking for bargains. Good luck with that.

I found this site to be the worst there is, Theres seems to be a small "clique" on there that are up there arse, and seem to use the site a social networking ever heard of facebook, or myspace, The rest of them are not the most attractive women yet think there gonna meet a Brad Pitt look-a-like. There is usually a reason why people cant get a date in the real life, and its usually down to looks,, your never gonna meet a stunner online lets be realistic. And also do women really think men gone on these sites to find love? lets be honest with ourselves.

POF is a heavily manipulated environment to maximize ad revenue. So a lot of time is required to use the site. It also doesn't have a user base segmentation. That ultimately means you can only get a 25% response rate at best because a lot of profile would simply not be interested even though you could view them. Most often the response rate will be in the 10-15% range. Really, why would you put in any effort for a success rate of only 10%. And that's just a response NOT a meeting.

For a guy to do well in that environment he would need to be a solid 7/10 on all attributes. If you are not at least that you are most certainly wasting your time on POF. Keep in mind of course that all women on the site are looking for a better then average than themselves, based on their own opinion of themselves.

As well, there are a fair number of women on the site just sticking up a profile hoping for the long shot and nothing else will do ... you're wasting your time emailing them. And their are a number of women on the site who will reject every guy, as that's their plan to start with.

Also, POF is structured to give the illusion of a high number of people actively using the site. When in fact, there is never really anymore than 300-400 active in any specific age group, at any one time. That's just slightly better, if that, than a large dance hall. Why spend any significant amount of time there for so few people?

I could go on about the obvious tricks POF is using, but the above should be more than enough to make most reasonable people flee the site.

AND of course, there is most definitely a fairly stagnant user vase on POF anyway.

Finally, as a guy, why would you want to be dating women that are meeting and dating that many guys anyway? Surely, that's less than ideal.

As a social site, POF is severely lacking. POF referring to itself as a dating is simply misrepresentation.

POF is deigned for frustration and uses that angle as a user retention device.

The level of rejection most guys experience on the site is well more than enough to shake your confidence and maybe even cause some mild depression. It didn't affect me too much as it's obvious what POF is doing, so I just moved on. But I;m sure a fair number of guys are affected. I sure some women are as well.

According to some friends there are some quite desirable women with children on the site that has been there quite some time. So it ain't working to well for them either.

I'll say it again ... POF is specifically designed to be self defeating to maximize ad revenue. Don't fall for it.
 

POF is a magnet for the most extreme loons: Fake/exaggerated profiles, pictures stolen from other profiles, lots of excuses for why "I'm currently not working", and if you don't have a car it's the place for you!

As a 47 yr old man, I joined the site for about 6 months. I was honest in my profile that I was living with someone and just testing the waters for the future. I never contacted anyone but had 6 women contact me despite me not having posted my picture. I eventually met up with 3 local women for a few dates and could have easily bedded 2 of them (they were nice but overweight so not my cup of tea). If you are honest, have a brain, are at least decent looking and are not sexually aggressive I can see that it would be pretty easy to hook up with women using this site.

I was shocked that I even got a single response never mind 5 dates with 3 women. I see too many people on the site who can't form a sentence, think that 70lbs overweight is "a few extra lbs" or dudes posing in front of their pickup truck with their shirt off thinking it's some kind of chick magnet. It's no wonder so many people are single and having trouble, thinking it's filled with snobs. Learn how to spell or use a spell check, try to come across as normal and above all, be honest if you want success. I thought it was easy as pie without even trying, with a picture and being single it would be a slam dunk so I would use the site again if need be.

Plenty of fish is  a decent free dating site!

My issues with pof was the sensitive  women and the lack of quality!

I would get blocked for senseless reasons.

I would have classless women send me notes that wasn't worth reading!

 got to say, ive met and dated over 10 women from this in a little over a year...no im not a player, we dated, went out talked extra...cracking site to meet people, had one relationship from there but distance was an issue, so it ended, there are some nice people on there, the best site ive been on, paid or not....and no you wont meet angelina jolie on there, people like that dont need dating sites !!!

I tried POF because I am new to the area and don't know anyone yet. Before moving I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and was ready to get back into the dating scene. I wrote a cute and catchy profile, added like 10 recent pictures, and was very specific about who I was looking for. A good looking guy who was very active that loves long walks, swimming, dancing, bike riding, and such... was a fan of the theater, wouldn't be afraid to get on a karaoke stage and belt out a tune, had no kids, prefered never married, financially and emotionally stable... and was between 31 to 38 years old.

What did I get? guys who were morbidly obese with more hair on their backs than on their heads, 3 kids from 3 different baby mommas, 40+ years old, jobless, with one photo of either his dog, or a photo of himself that looks like it was his mugshot...looking for one night stands... or long term relationships with rich super models.

Problem with this site is it's free. Sure it's a gamble to sign onto a datings site where you have to pay $50 a month... but the problem with a free site... they are not descriminating. Anyone (and I mean anyone) can join. The majority of them are just goofing around, looking to scam someone, or looking for one night stands.

when it comes to paid sites, scammers and slackers are less likely to waste money. Does it mean paid sites are loser free? no... but you have more of a chance with them to find someone serious about getting into a relationship.

I have signed up to plentyoffish 5 times in 2 days. It has deleted my profile for no reason all 5 times. My pics are normal. My profile is very simple and basic and all the information was filled in all 5 times. After sending a few hellos my profile was deleted instantly. something is really wrong with the site. I did not violate anything by saying heloo to anyone. and my pictures were very basic. Ive sent customer service an email and never got a reply as to how to fix this issue.

TERRIBLE, POOR CUSTOMER SERVICE, DEAD, BIASED, FORUMS.

PlentyofFish.com is a site that will eventually begin to plummet due to extremely poor customer service. The site does not care about the consumer and is not loyal to its customer base. Amazingly, the best part of the site are the forums but these are tanking now due to incredibly poor service from the site’s moderators.

At one time, this site had hope and I would believe that was in its earlier days. Now? This site is annoying in that it has no one to address it’s various issues via consumer complaints because no one there cares! The forum mods address consumer issues and as they can’t even handle the forums without scalding rude bias, I know they can’t handle customer concerns. It’s very disappointing to have been a member there for several years and be treated like nothing when I have a complaint or issue, and to take note that Markus is so busy and involved with his other pursuits (due to an apparent 90 minute workday) that he has no interest or time to care about what his membership thinks.

I would rather pay for more class, thanks all the same.

I was grateful for the experience and think POF is a pretty good free sight. Im an educated, moderately attractive middle aged women. Yes, Im struggling a little financially, but not more than many in these tough economic times. Im willing to give a lot of effort into a relationship that I want. I have my own place, my kids are grown etc. I have a car and would have no problem driving an hour or more for someone I love. 

Plenty of Fish is a FREE sight. For that reason, I dont see how any greedy predjudice people can complain.

I went on four dates. Both people I thought had the potential of being compatable with. One person I had some similar interests as him, and the other person I felt a lot of chemistry with. I started to develop some feelings for the second person.  I had a few extra pounds on me, not many, but it may have been an issue. Ironically, I started exercising a month later and have already lost over ten pounds, Im close to average weight now. I dont like to set up my profile to portray me exactly, because people do get stalky and harrassing, and I hoped someone would search through my profile to meet the real me. I am a catch, its just, people have to see others beyond the superficial crap, and the world is so based on superficial crap, image, money, looks etc.

Im afraid their is a stigma on these sights for women. Men are at an advatage because dating many for men is a macho thing, the more the merrier,and for women in a sexist society, it just makes a women look trashy, and it may not be her fault. She may enter every date thinking its a relationship and every man may lead her on until he gets what he wants then dump her.  These players are just the trash in society.

It would be easy for women or men to be mislead and end up with VD, or for a woman, pregnant, if they encounter the wrong undesireable people.

Men may put that they are looking for a long term relationship, but they are just looking for sex. This is so horrible. I am sorry, I used to wonder if men could be faithful, but Ive never seen a region where men were so dishonest and treated women so poorly. Back home, a date usually started with flowers, and interesting activity, and so forth. If a man asked you on a second date, it always meant that he was interested in pursuing some sort of relationship. Now sick puppies want to have sex but not call up and make sure their mate arrived home ok? I think by the second date, before there is sexual involvement, one should know if they are going to be able to form a relationship. The sign of a good person is that they do not get involved in a sexual activity unless they want to form a relationship with that person. People make mistakes, but if it happens often, the person is a just a loser.

Im sure some of the women have false photos, and expect the men to solve all of her problems by the second date too. Guys must get burned out on wasting their energies in false hopes.

It is difficult to meet people and form meaningful relationships.  I am a little shy with strangers, and am starting to get a little lonely at times.  Overall Im pretty happy. I think POF would be a good sight if people would be good human beings, and do what they know is right.  Only idiots base their lives on stereotypes, looks, images, sexual impulse, whatever. We are all sexual beings and develop some sort of human base to act correctly when dating. This isnt POFs fault if people dont have social skills.  I think there should be people that monitor the conversations or number of dates and cut the people off the sight if they are players.

I think it would be possible to meet a significant other on one of these sights if the quality of the people, determined by their behavior, was good. People just have to objectively sort through all of the superficial stuff to get to the real thing.

 I agree with this post.  POF is one of the dating sites (not "sight") I have my profile, and compared to OKCupid, the guys at POF respond more than OKC.  I met one guy from POF and one from OKC. The one from POF was a fake, he only wanted sex. The one from OKC wanted a relationship, but wasn't my type. Considering that I'm in late 40s, I have average to thin look, and I just started searching on these sites about one month ago, I'm doing fine. I believe these sites work, just as long you know how to work the sites, you are specific in your profile, and search the right people for you (this means, be realistic).

But, the most important to remember here is that both (and any date site for that matter) will have losers and serious people. I search singles at 3 different sites, and I specify what I want.  I find it that it helps to have a little exchange before going out on a date so you can gauge the personality and the intentions. 

At POF, I found that guys are more in search of sex than searching for a serious relationship. I found the OKC to have a lot of pretentious guys.  And, surprisingly, I found the same guys at both POF and OKC. So, some overlap occurs, and we cannot make any generalizations here. I think it is the free dating potential that appeals more than the site itself. Let's face it, to pay for a bad dating experience is no fun. 

Finding a romantic partner, love, and dating online is an odd thing, but unfortunately it is the sign of times, and, as a friend who found her husband online said "it is the only way to go if you want to date someone." 

I’m from the UK and find pof for men to be a absolute joke, the high expectations women have on that site is ludicrous and this obsession with men having to be 6 foot and over is over the top and most profiles have height requirements in them. The one that gets me though is very obese women actually have shopping lists of what a man must come with before she will give him time of day, which I could go on and on but if you’re a guy the odds are totally against you from the start and if youYanks think your women are bad enough, UK women are just as judgmental, superficial, arrogant, rediculous high expectation seeking idiots who clearly don’t know the difference between a dream and real life.

I dont recommend the site as the women on there are untrustworthy and horrible (read the forums to see just how nasty they are).

Steven

 While your review is harsh, I have to agree and this is coming from a female member of that site. Which the site is totally different for a women than a man but I never understood why men came across as bitter at first but after a lovely male friend joined that site, he showed me all the (un)read/deleted messages and actual messages recieved that rejected him over the smallest things like being a tiny bit under six foot in height or his job being a factory worker.

So yes, pof is fine if you are a female but for the guys out there it can be a horrible experience.

Helen from London, England.

The biggest problem with POF is that you get what you pay for. If you are interested in finding a slim white 45-53 year old female, well POF won't list any matches with men. But that's about it. Seeking the aforementioned type female I have never seen so many fat black and hispanic women that fit my search criteria. Go figure! So you simply have to sort through the trash so to speak. Maybe I'm using the wrong bait. Who knows. But anyway, Happy Sorting!!

 I understand your frustrations but you sound very racist. There are a lot of fat white women too on that site, so singling out black and hispanic women seems a bit insensitive. Just my two cents.:)

If your a man and looking for a single mom, a few extra pounds, with some realy weird eyeball or strange angle pictures, then you will be in heaven on POF!

I have completed my profile several times but I am unable to send messages. There is nothing weird or vulgar about it so there is no reason for it to be blocked. I can pull up my profile, view others, send messages, but my inbox (for the past week) still shows the messages as "unread". I even had a friend allow me to send him an email but he still has not received it! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Oh, and by the way to the guys: I am not stuck up, fat, a liar, or any of the other stuff that I have read here. I am a 37 year old black woman who prefers to date outside her race. So as you can see, I am an ok person. The guy that I told you about? He met his fiance on POF and they are a lovely couple...so there is always hope. Anything that is worth having takes work :)

I have exactly the same problem too. I'm on Windows 7 and have tried Internet Explorer and Mozilla Firefox. My message say they are sent but when I check sent messages area they all say "unread". I sent one to a friend and he said it did not reach him even though my computer said it was sent.

This is a booty call site. Most of the men on this site have another profile on Match.com or Perfectmatch.com, in order to find the women they really want to date. That's why they are fast to respond to women on plenty of fish. But if those same women contacted them on Match or any other paying site, these same men will not respond to these women, or even read their profile. Don't waste your time unless you want a booty call.

The men (and probably women, although I didn't check because I'm straight) on Plenty of Fish are predominantly conservative (out of apathy rather than conviction) and mostly poorly educated, complete with profiles riddled with misspellings. You can't search by education level or political orientation. I don't have kids, but it seems everyone else there has had at least 3 by the age of 23. I'm not particularly interested in playing stepmother to teenagers. I'm also not really compatible with Republicans, who seem to make up the majority of the members in my area, even though I live in a heavily Democratic area. I have nothing against conservatives, but relationships work best if both people involved have similar values. Alos, the membership stats are obviously inflated - they count anyone who has ever had a profile for a day as a member, even if they've only logged onto the site for a few days before realizing that there are indeed a lot of fish, but all of them smell a little off.

There is a reason this is free. Those without jobs can use it. I have used many other sites and found this one to contain the highest amount of unemployed . This site had a lot of men looking for a meal ticket. I will stick to a paid site. At least that weeds out the unemployed

 RUN... is all I can say. The worst site I have ever been on. LIARS and CHEATS.....that is what the site is good for. Somewhere they can get their needs met at the expense of women. SHUT THE SITE DOWN....LOL... hate POF men....

On the whole, I have enjoyed using POF and have met some women in the local area. Yes, people expect too much and it's almost funny to read an unattractive woman who wants Brad Pitt to sweep her off her feet. Good looking women get up to hundreds of E-mails and winks. I know, one showed me her daily quota. Men do not get as many by far. Still, it is free, the people are real and you can do worse on other paying sites.

Beware of people who are attached but looking for someone to fool around with.  It's just pathetic.  2 experiences with pathetic 62 year old men who don't see reality when they look in the mirror, yet act as if they are actually attractive enough to get someone nice.  Say they are looking for a serious relationship, when they are already in one!!!   Old, used up trolls...