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A lot of people will agree that most people are attracted by confidence. This boils down to our prehistoric instincts, which under the surface are still as strong as ever. People often want a confident partner in order to feel safe, and they will intuitively be attracted to these qualities.
Fortunately confidence is not something we are born with. It is something that can be developed throughout our lives by our life’s experiences. Our confidence can also be affected by negative experiences. Confidence levels subtly change from one day to the next, and even from one moment to the next. Hypnosis can help them confidence levels move in the right direction, up.
As you may already know, the dating game is not always easy. You might have some success with the opposite sex for a while, and your confidence levels begin to soar, only to have a bad experience and be knocked right back down. When you have had some success, your confidence levels usually rise, breeding even more success. However after a knock back, you can become stuck in a vicious cycle of failure.
You don’t need to waste any more time stuck in a negative loop. Hypnosis can help you by reprogramming your subconscious mind. This is the non logical emotional part of your mind that is responsible for your drives and fears. The part that is ultimately responsible for you being afraid of the opposite sex. A kind friend may try and help you by explaining that there is nothing to be afraid of. They may tell you that women won’t bite you. You are already well aware of this in your logical conscious mind.
However it is not your logical conscious mind that makes you feel uneasy at the prospect of approaching a member of the opposite sex. It is your irrational, emotional subconscious part that makes you fidget. Unless your good friend is a hypnotherapist, then they are unlikely to be able to communicate with this part of the brain. When thinking rationally, it is obvious that you have little to actually fear in terms of your safety and welfare when approaching the opposite sex. Your conscious mind already knows this. It therefore doesn’t matter how many times someone reminds your conscious self of this because you consciously know this anyway. It’s just that niggling feeling underneath which cannot always be explained.
The fear of approaching the opposite sex has it’s similarities with phobias such as the common fear of spiders. You logically know there is no reason to have this fear, but you can’t help but feel it. No matter how much someone tells you that there is nothing more to fear from a spider, you cannot help what you feel. Someone could sit with you and explain over an over again about how the spider has more to fear of you than you have of the spider, but it won’t usually make any difference.
In order to remove a fear, the subconscious mind needs to be communicated with, and hypnotherapy is an excellent tool for achieving this.
The unfortunate thing about phobias is that people begin to avoid the thing that they fear, which ultimately re enforces and strengthens it. Often the more you avoid the trigger (the thing you fear) the stronger and stronger it becomes. What may start out as a mild fear can develop into a more chronic fear through repetitive avoidance. The cycle needs to be stopped as soon as possible before it gets any worse.
A hypnotherapist can use many techniques to help stop this cycle and help you gain confidence with women. They can for example guide you through visualisation techniques where you imagine being very calm and confident in the presence of the opposite sex. When you wake up, your subconscious mind will believe that this really happened. Consciously you will know that it was visualization, but that doesn’t matter – it is the subconscious part of the mind that you need to convince, and it is relatively easy to do this with hypnosis.
You can do this yourself by getting yourself nice and relaxed and simply imagining yourself being very successful with the opposite sex. Just fantasize about being so very confident and bolding talking to them. Be positive at all times and imagine them loving talking to you – very interested and very flirtatious. This will do wonders for your inner self confidence.
This isn’t the only way that hypnotherapy can help. There are many other tactics which can be employed. For instance a good clinical hypnotherapist can also help change your perception of the dating game. They can help you to deeply realize that not every person will be attracted to you, just like you are not attracted to every one either. This is fine and normal. No matter how charming and attractive you are, you will never attract every one, no one can.
To some point the dating game is a numbers game. The more you approach, the more likely you are going to receive knock backs. BUT crucially the more likely you are also going to receive positive responses. If you approach no one, then nothing will happen either way. A good clinical hypnotherapist can help you put this into perspective, and not allow these blips to effect your confidence. Instead you can gain confidence with every positive experience, and simply ignore any negative experience. Over time you will then get into an ever strengthening cycle of confidence – becoming more and more confident as every day passes.
So if you want to break free from that old cycle and look the opposite sex in the eye with a calm and confident smile, then hypnosis is for you. Hypnosis can help free you from the shackles of the cycle of fear, and stride confidently up the ladder of success. It can unlock all those deep fears that you hide away, and bring out that glowing, shining confident and attractive self for the whole world to see.
Jon Rhodes is a former professional musician as well as one of the UK’s leading clinical hypnotherapists. Several years ago he decided to combine his two passions of music and hypnotherapy to create a unique and powerful collection of therapeutic audio sessions. Click here for more information on these powerful therapeutic hypnosis audio sessions, and here to help to improve your flirting confidence.
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No one is perfect. If we were all flawless, dating wouldn’t be as fun. I know I make a million mistakes on dates and I share them with my girlfriends so we can all laugh about them afterwards. Half the fun of dating is the stories you get to tell your friends.
1. Stay Away From Your Phone
The biggest mistake women make on a date is using their cell phones. When you’re on a date, your cell phone should stay in your bag. A guy doesn't want to sit across from you if you’re on your phone the entire time. He wants your full attention.
2. No One Cares About Your Ex
Sometimes women talk about their ex-boyfriends too much. You’re in the present, so focus on it. Your date wants to learn about you, he doesn’t care about your ex-boyfriends. If you want a future with someone, avoid bringing up your previous relationships.
3. Don’t Eat Like A Bird
When you go on a date, don’t order a salad. Men like women who enjoy eating. An appetite is sexy. When you order a salad on a date, you send out the wrong signal. Salads are like beans. They’re okay to eat when you’re alone or with a friend, but not on a date.
4. Keep The Drinks To A Minimum
Some women think it’s okay to drink alcohol like it’s water. Men don’t like alcoholics. It’s okay to have a few *censored*tails or even share a bottle of wine, but you don’t want to drink so much that your date thinks you’re a drunk.
5. Confidence is Cool
Women sometimes act insecure on a date. Yes, we all get nervous at times. We are human. But men don’t need to see that. It’s important to always be confident. Nothing turns a man off like an insecure woman. Even if you are nervous, fake it. Remember that confidence is a sexy quality.
6. No One Likes A Pain In The Ass
Being difficult and demanding on a date is not an aphrodisiac. When you tell the waiter to hold the sauce or put something on the side, you’re allowing your date to think that you’re annoying. You want to turn a man on, not scare him away.
7. Show A Little Skin – But Not Too Much
On a date, many women often forget to dress sexy. When you meet your man, you should look and feel like a celebrity. Business casual is not hot. When your date looks at you, you want him to be in awe.
8. Be Nice
Nothing makes a man want to run away like a rude and impolite woman. Think of your manners like your wallet. When you leave your home you wouldn’t walk out without your wallet. So, don’t go anywhere without your manners.
9. Gaze Into His Eyes
Many people don’t make eye contact. Some women stare at a man’s forehead, his watch, or his even his hair. Don’t make that mistake! You don’t want him to think you’re daydreaming or worrying about what you have to do at work the next day. Look right into his eyes so he knows you mean business.
10. Don’t Be Too Aggressive
Last but not least, some women like to make the first move. Once you’re in a relationship it’s important to be aggressive, but not when you’re first dating. Let him be the man. If he likes you, I promise he’ll kiss you.
By Carly Spindel
CarlysDatingChronicles.com
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One of the biggest diseases in dating, online or off, is perfectionism. Some of us just don't like to fail. Some won't admit we have. Some avoid it at all costs. When this stubbornness runs into the living, breathing person we're dating (or trying to date), things can get rough fast.
Fortunately, online dating can help us get past this quirk. We turn to online dating to find love, but remember it's a numbers game. With hundreds of thousands of people dating online, the odds are against us. We will fail more than we succeed.
The key is to fail a lot, up front, and get it out of the way. Then the odds are in our favor!
I find these techniques especially helpful for people who've gone back to dating after some time away. I was there not too long ago: I'd just left a long-term relationship. And I learned not to wish for a perfect relationship to replace the one I just lost. It's best to rack up a bunch of small failures while getting your mojo back. So...
- Write your best profile. Then trash it.
You can labor over a profile, writing a perfect masterpiece. But if it doesn't entice the people who'd love you in real life, it's time to revise. Rather than throwing it out, make it better bit-by-bit. In business, they call it kaizen, Japanese for "continuous improvement." It's rare to hit one out of the park on your first swing. So keep swinging-- keep improving.
- Aim for the stars. And crash and burn!
Make the first person you contact someone you think you have no chance with. Too gorgeous, too rich, too young, too everything. Be genuine-- pick someone you'd genuinely like to meet. They probably won't message you back, which is kind of the point. You want to get detached from the outcome of your dating by failing right away. It's easy to get attached to Joey19930 or Kim7ZZ7 after reading their profiles, but remember that they don't really exist until you meet them in the real world. Failing right away will remind you that the worst that can happen is this kind of failure. Which is nothing at all!
- Tell the perfect match in your head you're not good enough for them.
Ditch 'em. Then message, meet, even date someone who's not your type. Online dating makes it easy to go after ONLY 5'10" 28-year-old toned Catholic vegetarians with black hair. Which is good for being picky but bad for getting back in the game. So open your mind and meet someone new. (You don't have to marry them, or even fall in love. But you can learn a lot about yourself and have fun besides.)
- Fail to give it your all.
Searching online can easily take over your life. It's like looking for the needle in the haystack: you know it's in there, so you waste a day looking. That's a good way to burn out. Instead, limit your time. Give it no more than an hour every few days. If you write your profile right, it will do a lot of the work for you while you're walking the dog and doing yoga.
- Fail to fail.
By failing at online dating, you'll slowly get your confidence back. You won't look at a person who sends you a flirt as your last best chance. Instead, they'll be one of many options. Like the rest of life, the most vital part of all success is confidence. Remember, each failure is just a building block for the success you're about to build. As Samuel Beckett wrote, "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better." And eventually, you'll succeed!
By Clyde Williams
Clyde Williams is the author of The Power Profile, a new approach to writing your dating profile for more, better dates. A specialist in marketing, he teaches a 5-step method so that people can target and date the kinds of people they most desire.
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While doing a signing for my latest romance novel, a woman passed by, picked up my book, and immediately wrinkled her nose.
"I don't read these kinds of books," she said.
"What do you read?" I asked.
She slapped it down on the table as if it was so far beneath her she couldn't bare to touch it any longer. "Something with at least a hint of realism."
"I'm sorry for you," I said.
And I meant it.
Why?
Because, good romance novels aren't fairy tales. They are snapshots of love at its finest.
I should know. I've written 28 of them, and read hundreds of others.
The complaint shouldn't be that these romance novels are not realistic.
Many of us just don't know how to make this kind of love last.
But that doesn't mean we can't learn. It's basically a matter of behaving as we behaved when we were courting the love of our lives. And, then taking it a few steps further to establish deeper ties that make "true love" every bit a reality.
How to Make Your True Love Last a Lifetime:
1. Avoid negative thought patterns. Allowing yourself to mentally or verbally tear down your significant other is like gnawing at the bond that holds you together.
2. Remember that your true love means more to you than anyone else--including your parents and your kids. Those who put their children before their spouse are often disappointed to find that they have no relationship left once the kids head out on their own.
3. Be more flexible and forgiving with your spouse than anyone else. We expect our spouse to "understand" our stress or limitations (in other words, put up with our crap). Instead, reserve your patience and kindness for the person who means the most to you.
4. Understand that relationships work on a spiral. The more thoughtful you are to your loved one, the more fulfilled and happy your spouse will be. In return, your spouse will give back to you.
5. Don't get too practical. Some couples forego the flowers, the cards, the dinner dates and the chocolate boxes in favor of saving money. But what's worth more to you? A few bucks or a relationship that will likely affect your whole life and the lives of your children?
6. Do something nice for your spouse every day, even if it's just a chore they typically do. These thoughtful touches will act as reserves against the tough times.
7. Be physical. Touch your spouse a lot, even when there is no hope of it escalating into a sexual encounter. These little reminders that a spouse cares are nurturing to the soul and sends wonderful signals to your children. They feel secure and happy because you are secure and happy, and they are more loving because of the example you've set.
8. Remain loyal and unselfish. Have the grit it takes to stick through thick and thin. And, start worrying more about whether you are being a good spouse than whether your spouse is being a good mate to you, and you'll be glad you did. As much as it may seem otherwise, life isn't all about you, how you're feeling and what you want.
9. Take care of you. You don't have to be model thin or in the blush of youth. But be the best you can beâ€â€mentally and physically.
10. Laugh. Don't take life too seriously. It's no fun to be around someone when everything means too much and weighs too heavy.
By Brenda Novak
Best known for her evocative Stillwater Trilogy, Brenda Novak is a national bestselling author of romantic suspense. She has three books coming out this summerâ€â€TRUST ME, STOP ME and WATCH ME that will show you exactly why true love isn't a fairy tale. For more information on the Stillwater Trilogy and Brenda's upcoming books, go to http://www.BrendaNovak.com. And, don't forget to check out her new online auction with all monies donated to Diabetes research.
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Let's face it, most men tend to overestimate themselves. They may have been given strength from their academic record or success at work or on the court, and feel that this success automatically transfers over into credit in the "woman department". Unfortunately, this is almost never the case. These are the men that are left scratching their heads at the end of the evening when everything that they said or did went completely wrong. From my experience, here are just a few reasons why these men tend to misjudge themselves and fail.
1. Admission of error, means omission of error: Men like to be right, and conversely they do not like to admit when they are wrong. Because of this, they either create diversions, create excuses to cover it up, or try and explain it away.
2. Arrogance: Sometimes, a little arrogance is okay. But that place is often on the basketball court or in a sales meeting with a demanding client. Men should not be arrogant without due cause. Because of this, men tend to take advice from other men, that they perceive to be "less gifted intellectually, but more gifted with women". This almost always leads to a mistake.
3. High performing men often have the social skills of a raccoon. Often times, in social settings they cannot communicate with other people, and this leads to an upset or offended woman, or possibly women.
4. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Have you ever tried to buy a car, and the salesman is persistently trying to sell you on a pick-up truck? Probably not. Then why do men continually try and apply logic to women that are more driven by emotions? Women like men who can make them feel like they truly understand them.
5. Clicha Techniques don't work. Most men think that being charming and polite is the best solution. So, they take a page from the playbook that their mother taught them and proudly present their date with one dozen red roses on the first evening. This instantly places the man into a category that he does not want to be in, especially not this early in the evening!
Of course, these are just suggestions and mistakes that I've witnessed my friends making in the past. Some may be wrong, some pay be right, but overall, they are painfully accurate. Try not to over think the situation and resist those "cheesy impulses" that will have you labeled into "that Sweet guy I want to set my (homely) room mate up with".
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First you have to have a reasonable profile. Profiles are only of moderate importance, but they must be truthful. No uploading phony pictures, and no filling out fake personal details, like height, marital status, etc. Try to put something funny into you profile. People love to laugh, and if they are laughing at you, they might be loving you in the near future. Maybe tell a funny story about dating, or about a hobby or interest of yours. Avoid the tired old stereotypes of putting things like "not into head games", or "looking for someone honest". 75% of all profiles on the internet have these phrases in them and it becomes very booooring very fast. Make up something creative and unique that inspires an emotional reaction, like laughter, and it will stand out amongst the crowd. If you succeed in triggering someone's emotions right off the bat, you will get noticed.
Perhaps the most difficult part is getting that initial response. It is important to hedge your bet by sending out plenty of messages, but don't spread yourself too thin. It is important to put something meaningful and personal in the message you are sending. Form letters are a big turn-off. Try saying something in response to one of the comments in her profile, but don't waste too much time writing long winded messages on first contact. Also, don't waste your time reading her whole profile. Skim it quickly, in just a few seconds, and pick out anything that obviously stands out to work with in your initial message. Ideally, the shorter the initial message the better, but make sure whatever you write is intriguing enough that she will want to hear more. Messages like "hi, how's it going?" sometimes work, but if you say something more to the effect of "your picture reminds me of olden days, do you like dancing by any chance?" is way better. The best initial message is one which refers to something she specifically mentions in her profile. For instance, if she talks about liking dogs, ask her what her favourite kind of dog is. Or if she says she likes camping, say something like "you should hear about this one time I was camping and I forgot the tent!" If you put in a reference that alludes to a longer, more interesting story that will get her interested and wanting to read more. This is much like how newspaper journalists write a "hook" in the first couple sentences of a story. Make sure that whatever you write is truthful. Liars are always found out sooner or later and that will be the end of you right then and there. Also, if you can throw in a question, which will give her an obvious starting point for a reply, so much the better. Some women are stupid and uncreative and can't figure out how to respond to open-ended messages. Always provide some direction for a response. Sending messages without a leading question will definitely lower your conversion rate.
The next step is to get a witty banter going. After her first reply you should read her profile more thoroughly. Based upon what she wrote in her profile and her initial response, you should pick up on what some of her interests are and ask about those. It is important for her to think you respect her on an intellectual and emotional level as a person, so at no point should you talk openly about anything sexual at this point. Here is where you can write a more lengthy response because you have captured her interest enough for her to make that initial connection with you. The same principles apply as with the first message. Humour is good, sex talk bad. Follow these guidelines, have a little patience, and online dating success will be yours. A good rule of thumb is, don't say anything to a person online that you wouldn't say in person, or that might get you slapped. Just because you're sitting in front of a computer screen does not mean there is not a real person out there who you are communicating with. It is just as real as if you were sitting in the room together talking.
After about half a dozen or so fairly lengthy messages back and forth, she should be feeling comfortable enough to make the next step with you. This is usually talking on the phone. Try to make a set day and time when one of you will call the other so that you will both be expecting it. Talk to her on the phone for a little while first to get comfortable at this next level. Again - ABSOLUTELY NO SEX TALK!!! I cannot stress this enough guys. Don't even hint at it as most of you aren't near clever enough to be able to pull it off and you will just end up creeping her out and lose any chance for a date. Oh and for crying out loud, PLEASE, do not EVER send pictures of your wang!
Talk to her like she's a long lost friend who you are catching up with after several years. Women like to be treated as if they are your friend, and will feel that it shows respect towards them and will respect you for it in return. During the conversation, test her resolve by hinting at that you might like to go out sometime. Say something like "so what are you up to later this week?". If she hesitates or says something to shut you down like "oh I'm busy", you've probably blown it, so give up while you are ahead. Tell her that you should probably be going now and to have a nice day. If she isn't totally creeped out by you yet, this will at least demonstrate to her that you aren't a crazy stalker freak, and it will give her time to calm down and think that maybe she overreacted and should give you a second chance. Wait for a few days and if she doesn't send you a message, test the waters by sending her an email asking how it's going. If she doesn't respond, then scratch her off the list of potentials. If she does, then you can try again starting from that point forward and trying again on the phone, but ask first before calling her again. It is always important to keep messaging several different women at once so that when one flakes out on you like this, you have several alternatives and don't have to become desperate or weird and stalker-like. Women like a guy who is aloof enough to not talk to them for a few days and then sends them a message indicating that she hasn't been forgotten.
When you finally do go out, keep it simple. Go out for coffee, a drink, dinner maybe. If you aren't much of a conversationalist try a movie or mini-putt or something distracting so that you won't feel the pressure to keep talking all the time. Once you've been out once or twice, you can step up the romance a notch by going for a walk in the park, or to a scenic spot in the area. It is at this point that you may find my next advice column to be helpful - "How to seduce a woman".
If you found this helpful, please check out TheyFall - the online social networking, dating and advice site
http://www.TheyFall.com/
Copyright (c) 2007 Drew Mcpherson
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Has dating online lost its appeal? While growth in the internet dating industry has skyrocketed over the past few years, trends may be indicating that the industry is slowing down. Although dating online used to be outside of the social mainstream, and labeled members are desperate daters, over the past decade, things have begun to look up for internet dating companies everywhere. Even Hollywood tapped into the craze of dating online with movies centered around peoples' experiences.
With this in mind, it may be surprising that dating online, while certainly more mainstream, has not taken off in terms of industry numbers. There are several reasons . First, while the initial growth of the industry was extremely fast, and climbed rapidly, the growth may have temporarily plateaued. Also, as buzz around dating online picked up, interest grew and more people tried it out. However, many have also been turned away after their experiences. Granted, some have had negative experiences while dating online, from conflicts with other members, to feeling that it was not worth it to pay membership fees. So, while the mystique surrounding online dating websites may have been intriguing for new members, as more people tried dating online, the mystique wore off and scaled off the growth of the industry.
Another potential reason for the slow down could be because of the rapid growth of social networking sites. Although many members of networking sites are younger, potential couples can still meet online similar to the way that they do while dating online. The increasing number and popularity of social networking site has offered stiff competition for traditional online dating sites in that both have taken aspects of peoples' regular social lives online. Though social networking sites and online dating websites differ in their main functions and features, it may be just as easy for people to meet potential dates online through similar interests.
These, among others, could be some of the reasons why the online dating industry has shown signs of slowing in the past few years. Nonetheless, this is an industry that has proven that dating online will never go away.
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Top 10 email turnoffs for women by David Wygant
1. Don't ask her how much she weighs or what her measurements are. You might as well just tell her you only want to sleep with her and you have no interest in getting to know her, because that's what she's going to think if you ask her this.
2. Don't email her seven times asking her why she hasn't responded to your first email. Women get far more email than men do, so you need to be patient.
“Instead of harassing her, relax and be confident that she's going to respond to you.�
3. Don't ask her how many other dates she's been on from Yahoo! Personals. How many other dates someone has been on is not important. What is important is finding out whether the two of you click when you hang out.
4. Don't send her a nasty email if she hasn't responded to you after several emails. It's her prerogative whether or not she desires to be in contact with you. If she doesn't want to meet you, why get angry and nasty? There are plenty of other women out there who you can contact.
5. Don't ask her if she wants to have sex with you on the second email exchange, and don't send her dirty pictures of you. Women are all about connecting with their minds. Just because you're looking for a quick fling, that doesn't mean she's going to respond.
6. If she gives you her phone number, don't wait a week to call her. By extension, if you do wait a week to call her and she doesn't call you back, don't be shocked. Women have many options online. If she gives you her phone number, I suggest calling her that day. It keeps the momentum going.
7. When asking for more pictures, do so without any references to "Can you please send me a picture so I can see your body?" Ask her if she'd like to exchange more pictures, which means you send some and she sends some. Several women have complained to me that men ask them to send pictures of themselves in bikinis or other such things, so that men can see their body. Men, don't do this!
8. Don't get offended if she doesn't want to talk to you on the phone right away and/or wants to talk to you via email first to get to know you. You need to be flexible and open to her suggestions. Sometimes you may need to email back and forth for a week, and sometimes she'll give you her phone number right away. Either way, don't be rude.
9. Do not email-stalk her. Many of my women clients have complained to me about men who will email them several times a day for three weeks, until they are forced to block emails from those men. Men, she got your email the very first time. She just may have chosen not to open it. By sending emails several times a day, not only are you turning her off, you're freaking her out! You've become an online stalker. That's a guarantee she'll never go out with you.
10. Don't send cut-and-paste emails. When connecting with her for the very first time, don't cut and paste an email message in July that you've been sending out for six months with a tagline that says, "I love the holidays." By doing that, she knows you didn't read her profile - and that you're really, really lazy!
Want to find out what works, check my Daily Dating Blog. If you need any more online dating tips, email me. I have another batch in my blog waiting for you to devour. I always enjoy hearing your comments.
Dating Coach, Blogger and Author David Wygant has been featured on more than 2,000 radio and television shows including Dateline, CBS Good Morning, and MTV. Get more sex and dating tips on David's interactive blog at davidwygant.com
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We barely have time to pause and reflect these days on how far social communications technology has progressed. Without even taking a deep breath, we've transitioned from the telephone of our grandparents to email to chat to text messaging to blogs (MySpace) and on-line dating services (Match.com). The trend shows no signs of slowing the pace of change. New developments include instant mobile dating and a dating watchdog service, MyJerks.
Perhaps you don't want to wait til after work when you return home to your private computer or risk the ire of your employer if caught using your office computer for personal business. Perhaps you're traveling or have no immediate access to a computer when the mood strikes you to have a date for lunch in two hours. Fear not. Instant mobile dating services allow you to request and receive back within a few minutes via your cell, contacts who are close enough to your location (aren't GPS phones wonderful?) to meet you for lunch. You can text message potential dates to see if there is mutual interest.
Elizabeth had heard the success stories before; couples meeting their soul mates through online dating sites or other Internet meeting places. She had even heard of some such relationships that didn't work out. But she understood that even a couple introduced by relatives in the most traditional way, had no guaranty their relationship would last. What Elizabeth was not expecting, however, was the experience, yet to take place at her first face-to-face with Tony. Tony was a delightful guy she had been in close, maybe even intimate contact with, first by email then by phone, since their profiles were matched by an online dating site.
Normally Elizabeth would meet a first date at some mutually agreed public location. But since she had grown so close to Tony during the five weeks since their initial online contact, she felt safe allowing him to pick her up at her apartment. They planned to have pizza and beer at a downtown pub, and then play it by ear. When she opened her front door, she got her first surprise: his physical appearance. He appeared to be more like 42 than 29, and 220 lbs. rather than the 180 lbs. in his profile. But he was still a good-looking man. He introduced himself with smile and an extended right hand. The shock wearing off, Elizabeth returned the smile and her hand. She made a mental note to ask him about his older appearance once they were sitting at the pub, but then thought better of it. This question needs an answer now, not later this evening. Tony, still smiling, explained he had no current photos, so used an older one. His weight? Well, 180 lbs was what he weighed when the photo was taken; no need to confuse someone with conflicting weight and photo. Same for age. Same for receding hairline.
Elizabeth now had issues with Tony's honesty. He wasn't the person he pretended to be. But his age and weight were just the tip of the iceberg. Elizabeth exploded when she spotted the white band of skin on the ring finger of an otherwise tanned left hand. Tony took a deep breath. He admitted he was married but was getting a divorce. After some direct questions he further admitted he and his wife actually still lived in the same apartment. Why hadn't he moved out? Well, he had no money because he was "in-between jobs". That's when Tony hit her with the big question. "Since we have grown so close," he said, "I thought maybe I could move in here with you until I get on my feet. What do you think, honey?"
Does this type of encounter sound familiar? Can you be sure it will never happen to you? Who is going to warn you that the stranger trying to establish a personal relationship with you on the Internet or cellphone has a history of deception?
Today, Internet dating sites present a seemingly endless supply of possible dates. Social networking of people all over the world is now an enormous 175M with 163M from MySpace alone. However, there is no intermediary checking to keep anyone honest, as might happen if a relative, friend, or you meet at a physical social gathering.
The most relevant addition to the phenomenon of social networking on the Internet, however, is now available. MyJerks.com has joined the ranks of social networking in a new way. There is now a site on the Internet where anyone can go and report a person who has deceived them. MyJerks.com provides a vehicle for people to expose a person who has deceived them over the Internet or the cellphone, specifically on dating services and blogs. Posting on MyJerks.com is free to all. Email address and other personal information is kept confidential. MyJerks.com offers dating tips, a jerk of the month story, a video contest and a blog.
Developer of MyJerks.com, Vickie Powell, is a business owner and author with over 15 years experience in social networking on the Internet. Powell saw the need for a service, presented in good taste, for men and woman to report a jerk or jerkette who lies his/her way into a relationship. There had been no place on the Internet for both men and woman to turn before MyJerks. Ms. Powell has recently completed writing a book, Intimate Strangers. Intimate Strangers covers the period from the 1980s to present and addresses the ever-increasing role of the Internet as the medium for connecting with other people on a social level. Through her research and from her personal experiences, she recognized the need for a service to help people meeting on line to identify scam artists and other undesirables in order to avoid them.
By: Jim Murray
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