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3 Tips for Guys on OKC.

Authored by: Anonymous (Anonymous User) on Tuesday, April 02 2013 @ 11:34 am

This is advice for my fellow guys. OKC worked for me. I know everyone's experience is different, but don't listen to these dudes who say OKC is a waste. They're probably doing it wrong. Three basic tips for guys like me. Average-looking guys in their 20's who are fairly interested in getting into a relationship with a girl.

Three tips: Cast a wide net, send the right kind of message, and know who not to message.

1 - Cast a wide net. Just like in the real world, most girls on OKC expect guys to make the first move. So you gotta reach out to them. And most of the time, they're not gonna respond. You just gotta accept that. Rejection sucks, but the sooner you accept it, the more successful you'll be on this site. So cast a wide net. Message a lot of girls, and not just your perfect girl. My experience has been that for every 30-ish girls I message, 1 will write back. So yeah, you gotta be cool with writing a lot of messages.

2 - The right kind of message. My experience has been that if you just say something like "hey, I'm John," or "hi there, what's your name," she's not gonna write back. These girls are getting hit with lots of messages, and they have their choice, so you gotta set yourself apart. Here's what worked for me. Read their profile. Yeah, actually read it. Find two things she wrote about that you can relate to, or find interesting, or have something to say about. And then ask a question. Always ask a question, b/c it's easier for her to respond that way. In other words, don't go for the jugular right off the bat with "hey sexy, wanna get a drink tonight?" That aint gonna fly. Instead, try something like "hey, I'm Steve. I've never tried Ethiopian food before, but I like skiing too. Where have you skied on the East Coast?" Most of the time she wont write back, but every now and then she will. And then you're in. Keep the conversation going. Keep asking questions. Don't focus on her body. Don't tell her how hot she looks. You can say you like her nose ring, but don't say she's sexy as hell. And don't ask her to meet up in the real world until you've had a fair amount of time to message back and forth, and she's comfortable that (1) you're not crazy, (2) you're not just trying to meet up to bang, and (3) she thinks you're an interesting person and that meeting up wont be totally boring or awkward. I know a lot of guys on this forum say that girls on OKC never wanna meet up, but my guess is that these dudes are doing one of these things wrong.

3 - Who not to message. Casting a wide net can be time-consuming. You gotta put in the time if you want results, but some girls you just shouldn't waste your time with: 1. Girls who say they're here just to meet new friends. Not sure why you're on a dating site if you just wanna meet new friends. 2. Girls who dont show their whole body in their profile pic, and girls with only one or two pics. If they're not willing to be honest about what they look like, forget it. 3. Girls with lots of pics of themselves in their underwear/extremely sexy profile. Sure, she's hot, but every single horndog dude on OKC is gonna be drooling at her door. Just forget her, she aint gonna message back. Also, I'm always suspicious of whether girls like that really wanna meet someone.

I said three tips, but here's a fourth: Put some time into your profile. Don't make it all about sex. Actually, don't even mention sex. I think girls on OKC are really suspicious that most the guys on there just want to find a booty call. So make sure she sees you are a real guy with real interests, and are looking for someone fun to get to know. And put lots of pics of yourself - all of them with your shirt on. Don't write a damn novel, but don't write less than a paragraph.

If you send the right kind of message, and cast a wide net, and have a good profile, eventually you'll be chatting with four or five girls on a regular basis. That might not sound like a lot, but if you are how I was, and joined a dating site b/c you were sick of hitting on the same dumbass girls and bars and clubs, it will be a nice change to have some "prospects" on a regular basis outside of the drunken party context. And if you keep the convo going, you will eventually meet up with at least one or two of them. And once you meet up, you're on your own!

OKC worked for me. Hope this helps, and don't listen to the haters. Just be smart, not creepy, and honest with yourself, and you'll be good, dude.

I'm supposed to be studying. Talk about procrastination. .....

3 Tips for Guys on OKC.

Authored by: Tom (Anonymous User) on Wednesday, May 29 2013 @ 11:01 pm

Very well said! I've actually used all of those tips and have very good responses. I usually get responses from 30-40% of those I message.

I might add one footnote to doing the narrative of "who you are". Stay away from bringing up what material possessions you have, big accomplishments (might sound like too much bragging or tryimg too hard to impress). And, try to get alot of imsight into what HER narrative is saying.

3 Tips for Guys on OKC.

Authored by: Anonymous (Anonymous User) on Tuesday, May 28 2013 @ 09:44 pm

You couldn't be any more right !! Guys do give up too easy. They probably have low confidence already

3 Tips for Guys on OKC.

Authored by: Arrow (Anonymous User) on Thursday, May 23 2013 @ 07:10 pm

Best and most useful comment on here, mate. I'm thinking of restarting OKC for fun and your tips are very good. The problem with dating sites is it's safe to assume most of the users are going to be social rejects. Not always, but the point is, it can be very hard to find someone special, just like a needle in haystack. I found one girl I thought was special once, but the sparks just didn't fly, due to circumstances or whatever. Hoping to have more luck this time!

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