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online dating is an art form

Authored by: Anonymous (Anonymous User) on Thursday, July 16 2009 @ 06:43 pm

I've read a lot of the posts about match.com, and it seems like many people honestly don't understand how to successfully utilize online dating. I'll preface my comments by stating that it took me about six months of disappointment to figure out how to get the results I was looking for from online dating; but once I figured things out, I've had a lot of success with match.com ever since (and no, I don't work for any online dating site.) I've been told by the women I've met via match.com that I have several dating advantages - I earn well over $100K, college educated, tall, and in decent shape - but I'm no adonis and would rate myself B- on overall looks - so I've been rejected many times like everyone else. That said, based on my experience, here are some suggestions that will help you find success with match.com:
1. Post multiple, current pictures and be honest in describing your appearance (we'll find out how you really look in person, so why lie?); btw, on match.com, 'about average' usually means mildly overweight; if you don't post pictures people will assume you're ugly and you won't get responses
2. Take the time to clearly articulate who you are and what you're looking for - if you want a LTR with marriage and kids (like I do) say so; women want either the 'dangerous bad boy' or 'trustworthy, interesting, nice guy' - be sure to explain which one you are; state what turns you on and off with people you date; use proper grammar, avoid vulgarity, and have a friend review your profile to add suggestions - the more generic your profile the less success you'll have; make sure you come off as interesting.
3. Guys MUST email the women they are interested in - women usually don't respond to winks; as always, the guy has to make the first move; make sure your email includes details showing you actually read her profile - a generic sounding or vulgar email will not get a response; NEVER ask a woman her measurements or for additional pictures - she'll be offended; it is completely socially acceptable to date several people at once prior to having sex or become exclusive - so don't communicate online with one person at a time. Once you have sex, you have to be honest and stop seeing the others - unless you are only looking for casual relationships and have explained this up-front.
4. Guys MUST ask the woman to meet by the third email - no later! The goal is to meet someone in person and find out if there is chemistry. Wait too long, and she'll get bored and ditch you - emailing gets tedious. Be sure to find out her neighborhood, suggest a safe restaurant or bar to meet publicly in her neighborhood outside of work hours, and tell her the specific date and time to meet; once she agrees, provide your cell phone number and ask for hers so you can communicate if either of you are running late
5. Don't be offended if someone does not want a second date. That means they may like you but are not physically attracted. Without physical attraction, you will never become more than friends - so get over it and move on, regardless of how much of an ego-killer it is (we've all been there)
6. If the first date seems to go well, be sure to ask her out again within 3 days max. Wait any longer and she'll forget about you

Follow the above, and I can almost guarantee you will have some success in getting dates on match.com (unless you are morbidly obese, have poor hygiene practices, or are completely devoid of social skills). Good luck!

online dating is an art form

Authored by: Anonymous (Anonymous User) on Saturday, December 19 2015 @ 09:18 pm

This guy is absolutely correct. I have been online dating on and off for 4 years. When I first tried it I had been widowed for just over a year and hadn't been on a date since I was 20. My experience wasn't all that great. Since then I've had a few relationships with men I have met on match. I'm in my mid 40's, thin, considered attractive, and financially secure. I am picky and want a man with similar attributes.

Men I have dated for extended periods or had relationships with did exactly as this guy said.

-Had current pictures with a well written profile
- contacted me via email and quickly asked to meet
-asked me out for a second date on or with in a day of meeting.

I Personally get very bored and loose interest if men want to email for weeks and don't ask for a date. Eventually their emails get lost in my inbox while I am out meeting men on real dates.

Same goes for waiting too long to ask for a second date. If a guy waits too long to ask me out again chances are I met somebody else that is perusing me and is asking for 2nd and 3rd dates. He is getting my free time. There is a fine line here... Stalker like behavior is not attractive!

One thing not mentioned that I feel is important. Honestly evaluate yourself...If you are a 5 don't waste your time trying to date 10's...unless you are a billionaire and want eye candy that loves your money. I work hard and eat healthy to stay a size 2... Why would I want to date a guy with a couch potatoes body. Just sayin'

online dating is an art form

Authored by: Anonymous (Anonymous User) on Wednesday, December 16 2009 @ 08:45 pm

Thanks! I'm not a member, yet, but would be interested in meeting you!! I hope that there are others like you online.

online dating is an art form

Authored by: Anonymous (Anonymous User) on Saturday, October 03 2009 @ 03:05 pm

Thank you for taking the time to write your post. I think it is valuable advice for both men and women. I wish more men would approach online dating as you have!

online dating is an art form

Authored by: Anonymous (Anonymous User) on Monday, September 21 2009 @ 12:34 am

Excellent advice. Well written. First review I have read in searching sites to consider joining that was encouraging
and realistic. Applicable even though I am a woman. Thanks for taking the time to write it.

online dating is an art form

Authored by: Lunch-lady (Anonymous User) on Wednesday, September 26 2012 @ 09:40 am

I agree with this reviewer. To be successful with a dating site you have to first know how to actually online date.

Not only is what dating site you pick important, and match.com is a good one, one’s technique is very important and is a vital key on being successful.

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