Do you typically meet a first date for coffee or drinks, not wanting to commit to anything more until you know you hit it off?
Turns out this might not be the best strategy for finding love. Dating app Coffee Meets Bagel recently surveyed more than 1,000 couples who met through its app to see what made their first date so successful. The company then surveyed more than 6,000 singles to compare their thoughts about first dates, and found they don’t often agree. Here’s what we can learn.
Following are nine findings that increase your chance of first date success:
Talk with each other for at least a week before going on a first date.
Thirty-seven percent of couples say they chatted with each other for more than one week before going on a first date.
Date during the week.
The couples surveyed by CMB didn’t wait for the weekend to schedule a first date, taking advantage by scheduling sooner than later. Most singles on the other hand overwhelmingly prefer to wait and schedule first dates on Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays.
Commit to dinner.
Coffee dates seem easier, but they don’t really create the kind of experience conducive to getting to know your date. Thirty-three percent of the couples surveyed went out to dinner for their first date rather than going out for drinks or coffee. However, only 14% of singles say that dinner is an ideal first date activity, with 38% saying they prefer to meet for drinks and 25% prefer to meet for coffee.
Guys, plan the first date.
The majority of men surveyed who are in committed relationships say they planned their first date (62%). However, 52% of single male respondents think a first date should be planned together.
Guys, pick up the check.
Among the couples interviewed, 80% say the man paid for the first date, while 20% split the check. However, the majority of single women (67%) prefer to split the check.
Keep the first date affordable.
The vast majority of couples (73%) say their first date cost less than $50.
Don’t kiss on the first date.
Only 29% of couples surveyed admit to kissing on the first date, whereas 45% of singles say they typically kiss on a first date.
Follow up right away.
Among the couples, 56% of respondents say they talked or texted each other right after their first date, as opposed to singles, where only 43% communicated immediately after a good first date.
Plan a second date ASAP.
Seventy-seven percent of couples planned their second date during the first date, or the day after. If you think you might be interested, there’s no point in waiting or playing games, so plan.