Summer is officially behind us (except for those of you in the southern hemisphere), which means the start of the holiday season. And while you might be missing those warm nights, there’s a good chance your love life will improve in the new season.
Autumn has been proven to be the season for finding lasting love, whether it’s because people are socializing more, or the rush and romance of the holidays, or the fact that cold nights by the fire inspire romantic notions. To help you get a jump start this season, dating site Match has put together a few statistics about the best ways to find love, based on its annual survey of thousands of people in the US, called Singles in America.
First of all, Match encourages you to give love a real chance, and not to expect instant chemistry to lead to a long-term romance. In fact, Match found that a majority of daters – 59% of men and women – do not expect to feel chemistry until the second date, and 35% reported they have fallen deeply in love with someone they didn’t initially find attractive.
Let’s let this settle a moment: 35% of survey respondents admitted they have fallen in love with someone they weren’t initially attracted to. This goes against many romantic stories we have been told of love at first sight, and it’s also heartening to know that chemistry builds over time.
Here’s some advice Match shared about what works and what doesn’t on a first date, to help you get to the second date where the real magic can happen:
Try online dating.
Online dating sites and offline matchmaking services give you the highest chance of a second date. If you meet online, you have a 28% better chance of a second date compared to any other way of meeting – a 78% better chance than those who met through a friend.
Eat sushi for your first date.
Having sushi on your first day boosts your chances of a second date by 170%!
What your drink says about you.
Skip the wine and beer and go for a cocktail, since these drinks increases your second-date chances by 137%.
Can we about politics?
Contrary to popular opinion, the survey found that a good discussion on any political issue can boost your chances of a second date by 91%. Please keep it respectful though – you don’t want to chastise your date for his/ her beliefs.
Humor is an aphrodisiac.
Sixty-nine percent of women and 56% of men say that having a good sense of humor and/or charisma helps win a second date.
Show your smarts.
Forty-eight percent of women and 42% of men grant a second date to those with a keen intellect.
Men who spend money on their appearance have a 35% better chance of getting a second date.
Say yes to a second date.
Fifty-three percent will go on a second date with someone for whom they do not yet feel any romantic chemistry, largely because 50% of them believe that the person will “grow on me.”